Robert Sepúlveda has definitely caught our attention. From his good looks to being the first gay bachelor on Logo’s “Finding Prince Charming”, to the swarming internet chatter surrounding his escorting past. He is definitely a figure that won’t soon be forgotten. We live in an age where nothing is hidden and scrutiny is all the rage. So we caught up with this dashing man, to find out how he’s handling the newfound fame and living his life under a demanding microscope. We find a man’s humanity being picked apart because of what he felt he had to do to make ends meet. Not everything in life is so black or white, good or bad.
You’ve recently moved from Atlanta to Los Angeles. How are you liking it? Yes, I’ve officially lived in LA and I’m loving it! I’ve visited LA for years now and when I lived in NYC I thought I could never live in LA – I also thought I would never move out of NYC – but alas look at me now! LA has vibrant outdoor lifestyle. I love going for hikes, enjoying the beach the great climate, I love meeting other artists, activist, community leaders and individuals at the top of their fields. It reminds me of living in NYC at times. Atlanta is a beautiful city, I did live there for 3 years straight from NYC and I loved working with state, local and community leaders to install the Atlanta Rainbow Crosswalks, but I knew I wouldn’t be in Atlanta forever. I knew a move was coming. I’m excited about what the future has in store for me here!
Was it difficult for you to find love before the show? What made you want to take part in the show and have people put your life under a microscope? Before the show began filming I was in a long-term relationship, but that ended, which was best for both of us. I must admit I have always been someone who has enjoyed being in relationships, but don’t get me wrong, I enjoy my personal time very much, however what I enjoy most are the memories built with a lover-the adventure of travel, learning new things together, laughing, crying, the ups and the downs. The magic one has with a partner is something extraordinary. After my relationship ended I was ready and open to love.
Did you know Lance Bass before the show? I, like many of us, knew him from his singing days and mutual friends in common. Like in most in the gay community we knew of each other, but had never met in person. It wasn’t until I was on set that I even knew he was the host! Working with Lance was a real honor. We spent many hours in the green room just being goofy, laughing and getting to know each other. He’s a true gem!
How did it feel having all of these hot guys vying for your attention? My main priority was to treat all the guys with respect and dignity. All of us, at one time or another, been guilty of judging a book by its cover and in turn, not giving someone a fair chance that’s something I didn’t want to do. I wanted to take full advantage of this amazing opportunity and really get to know all the guys, give them all a chance with the time allotted. But it was a show and even if the guys weren’t attracted to me, why would they want to go home? So, I really needed to try to figure out who was here for a possible relationship and who was there for the show.
What do you look for in a guy? I love someone with a sense of self, a sense of purpose, drive, ambition and humor, someone with dreams and aspirations and interested in bettering life around them. Someone empathic, nonjudgmental, that understands how the ego works and how to control it.
If you could change anything that happened on the show what would it be? I would have loved to be able to show the viewers more of my playful, funny, goofy side. I’m really a funny guy, I laugh a lot, most of the time at myself… I play jokes on my friend’s, I’m very easy going and pretty much go with the flow. People saw a more pensive, somewhat ridged side of me, but it was because there was a lot of weight on my shoulders. I needed to be present and conscious of the guy’s feelings, I wanted them to know I was being thoughtful and explaining to them why I thought we weren’t a good match. I think all of us have been in a place where we didn’t understand WHY it wasn’t a match or why the other person let us go without an explanation and that’s something I didn’t want to leave them with. It was my duty to cohesively and intelligently explain my feelings to them. I also understood that this show was way bigger than me - the guys, the network, bigger than all of us. We made history - the first ever all-gay dating show! That’s profound. I knew people from all over the world who would be watching, in places where being gay is punishable by death and that’s a weight I carried through every interview on the show. My interactions with the guys - didn’t matter how silly the other guys got, I knew my place was at the head of the show, and that people would be watching me as an example to the community.
Do you think some guys were only on the show in search of fame? If so who? Knowing what I know now, especially after the reunion and as time has passed it is very clear to me and I’m sure clear to many viewers, who honestly was on the show for the possibility of a relationship and who was on for fame and exposure. I don’t need to name names, they know who they are.
Many people put so much pressure on this show and really wantedyou to be a role model or a figurehead for the gay community. Do you see yourself as a role model? Before we began production, I was nervous, this was a big endeavor, lots of people invested a lot of money and time into the show, there was a big crew, lots of cameras, and I was at the center of the story, it was also Season 1 and the first show of its kind in history, so I did feel I had to deliver. As far as being a role model; I can only try to spread my philosophy of living in harmony and love with yourself and others, trying to understand how our ego can be our downfall no matter what has happen to you in your past, all of us are worth of love and dignity. I am not a, Disney, unexposed caricature of what people perceive the perfect prince charming to be. I’m a real human being with real emotions that has had to overcome real life situations and obstacles. That’s something I hope others can draw strength from. Everyone must live their lives the best way they can, not trying to live someone else’s journey, that journey is already taken, but living your journey making the best decisions for you. Someone else wrong turn can turn out to be your right turn and vice versa. But I do recognize that the show has given me a platform, and I will continue to utilize that platform to spread awareness on issues that affect the LGBTQ+ community and issues that are meaningful to me.
People have asked so many questions about your personal life. How do you deal with the haters? Well, if one is going to be on a television show that will be seen around the world they need to prepare themselves for hate. I have learned that people will hate just about everything and anything, but my journey through all of these moments in life and my journey for clarity and a more awakened spirit has allowed me to see that hate directed at you or me should not be seen as a personal attack, in fact it should be seen as moment of divine clarity that the person or people hating have an absurd fear of what they see in you that actually reflects themselves. It says much more about them then it does about oneself.
Ok, everyone knows you have a sick body. How do you stay so freaking fit? I get that question a lot! On my new YouTube channel @Robert Sepúlveda Jr. and Instagram @RSJdesign ill be talking more about my fitness routines, but for me it really comes down to moderation. I generally try to stay away from bread, sugar and too much salt. I eat lots of protein and get outside for a hike as much as I possibly can. I do love working out, staying fit. The body is another art form, like in design, you can design a room envisioned in your mind, it also applies to the body. One can use their body as a canvas, as art and create whatever they choose.
Boxers or Briefs? Haha, generally wear boxers.
How did you get into interior design? I was born on the Island of Puerto Rico on February 11 1983, so naturally my first visions of interior spaces ranged from Spanish Colonial Villas infused with Caribbean colors, to the traditional neoclassical architecture of the mid-18th century. My first design projects was at age ten when asked to help in remodeling the family home, drawing architectural and interior plans, and cultivating in the process what would later become a passionate and ever evolving career. I entered The Art Institute of Fort Lauderdale in 2004 where I graduated summa cum laude. Afterwards I began my career at Valley Forge Textiles, the world’s largest supplier of decorative upholstery fabrics for the hospitality industry. There I would create and execute interior design schemes for ultra-premium hoteliers like The Biltmore, Caesar’s Palace, Mandarin Oriental, Nikko, Le Meridian, W, Ritz Carlton, and Lowes, to name just a few. But in 2008, I to New York City where I began working with industry leader fashion houses Polo Ralph Lauren, Rugby Ralph Lauren, Lacoste, OPRAH Magazine, and Kenneth Cole, eventually assuming the role of acting Global Visual Manager of the Calvin Klein “HOME” collection. Now with my considerable fashion expertise, an affinity for period architecture and bygone design styles, I am seeking to translate my experiences abroad of some of the world’s most prestigious living environments onto my own lifestyle brand @RSJcollection www.rskcollecion.com “RSJ Collection,” featuring luxury home fragrances, furniture and more.
What are some of the charities you’ve been working with? What’s next for you? Are you working on any new projects? Thankfully Robert Sepúlveda Jr. | Interior Design has been very busy with new interior design clients and projects. My activism and community outreach is something I am also very passionate about. I currently live in LA and have had the incredible opportunity to work with some amazing charitable organizations like the LGBT center in West Hollywood, AIDSWalk LA, and many more. I also have a profound passion working with no kill animal rescue and adoption organizations. I’ve volunteered for over 13 year with no kill animal rescue organizations throughout the country Animal Haven in NYC and Paws Atlanta and I want to continue this in LA. I also want to continue my work with underprivileged kids and at-risk teens that need direction or someone to talk to. Thankfully the LGBT center in LA has some wonderful programs for anyone that needs help. I would also love to continue to work in television, where I can showcase more of my love of design and transformations. I’ve also been working on @RSJcollection, which is a luxury home fragrance line. I’ve also started a new YouTube channel @Robert Sepúlveda Jr. I’ll be posting my thoughts about design, life, love, the past, everything.
Keep up with Robert on Instagram and Twitter @rsjdesign.